When someone we love – such as a beloved pet – dies, the loss often causes grief and intense sorrow. By physically showing your grief, you actively mourn the death of your beloved pet. This active mourning will move you on a journey toward reconciling with the loss of your pet.
What Should I Do? Your journey of grief will not take on a prescribed pattern or look like stages. During the period when you are actively mourning your loss, it may help to consider the following: Acknowledge the reality of the death Acknowledging the full reality of your loss may take weeks or months, but will be done in a time that is right for you. Be kind to yourself as you prepare for the “new normal” of a life without your beloved pet. Just as it took time to build the relationship with your pet, it will take time to get used to him or her not being there. Move toward the pain of the loss Experiencing these emotional thoughts and feelings about the death of a pet is a difficult, but important, need. A healthier grief journey may come from taking your time to work through your feelings rather than trying to push them away or ignore it. Continue your relationship through memories Your memories allow your pets to live on in you. Embracing these memories, both happy and sad, can be a very slow and, at times, painful process that occurs in small steps. For example, take some time to look at past photos, write a tribute to your pet, or write your pet a letter recalling your time together. Adjust your self-identity Part of your self-identity might come from being a pet owner. Others may also think of you in relation to your pet. You may be “the guy who always walked the big black dog around the neighborhood” or “the friend whose cat always jumped on laps.” Adjusting to this change is a central need of mourning. Search for meaning When a pet dies, it’s natural to question the meaning and purpose of pets in your life. Coming to terms with these questions is another need you must meet during your grief journey. Know that it is the asking, not the finding of concrete answers, that is important. Receive support from others You need the love and support of others because you never "get over" grief. Talking or being with other pet owners who have experienced the death of a pet can be one important way to meet this need. Things to Remember The experience of loss is different for everyone and can present unique challenges. The deafening silence - the silence in your home after the death of a pet may seem excruciatingly loud. While your animal companion occupies physical space in your life and your home, many times their presence is felt more with your senses. When that pet is no longer there, the lack of their presence – the silence - becomes piercing. It becomes the reality of the “presence of the absence.” Merely being aware of this stark reality will assist in preparing you for the flood of emotions. The special bond with your pet - the relationship shared with your pet is a special and unique bond, a tie that some might find difficult to understand. There will be well-meaning friends and family members who will think that you should not mourn for your pet or who will tell you that you should not be grieving as hard as you are because “it’s just a cat” or “just a dog.” Your grief is normal and the relationship you shared with your special friend needs to be mourned. Grief can’t be ranked - sometimes our heads get in the way of our heart’s desire to mourn by trying to justify the depth of our emotion. Some people will then want to “rank” their grief, pitting their grief emotions with others who may be “worse.” While this is normal, your grief is your grief and deserves the care and attention of anyone who is experiencing a loss. Questions of spirituality - during this time in your grief journey, you may find yourself questioning your beliefs regarding pets and the after-life. Many people around you will also have their own opinions. It will be important during this time for you to find the answers right for you and your individual and personal beliefs. Source: https://www.avma.org/public/PetCare/Pages/pet-loss.aspx
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Just like what I keep on telling to blog sites I've been to in the past, it's too painful to lose someone who matters to you. May it be a person or a pet, the fact that you have lost someone dearly is a situation we never want to face, ever. But we don't have the choice but to move forward. It is okay to acknowledge and feel the pain. As long as it's their, it is okay to feel what you want to feel as the idea of releasing your real emotion is healthy. But on the other hand, you need to convince yourself about the reality and find better ways to cope up. I am sure everyone is capable of that, at the right given time.
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7/25/2021 11:39:00 am
I realized that it has been a long time since I have checked in. I see you guys are doing really great, How spectacular those sights must of been.
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9/11/2021 09:23:19 pm
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9/21/2021 07:26:52 am
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11/23/2021 12:11:32 pm
The eyes. Your cat's eyes can also tell you something about how he's feeling, provided you look at the rest of his body language, too.
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11/30/2021 06:38:41 am
So glad you made it to Africa safely! Looks like you have already had a few eye opening experiences! The kids were so cute! I would probably want to take them all home lol. Well sounds like you have lots planned over the next little while. Can't wait to see the pictures, I am positive they will be amazing!!!
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12/20/2021 05:16:49 am
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1/20/2022 08:23:58 am
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1/25/2022 09:56:11 pm
Thanks for pointing out that acknowledging the full reality of our loss may take weeks or months. This is helpful because our Belgian dog passed away last night due to old age. We are hoping to find a funeral home on Monday that can provide a flat graveyard marker at an affordable rate.
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3/6/2022 05:29:23 am
This looks so amazing. I am so glad that you guys decided to travel around Australia more before you head home! Miss you both though.
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4/16/2022 10:17:20 am
The eyes. Your cat's eyes can also tell you something about how he's feeling, provided you look at the rest of his body language, too.
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4/23/2022 11:34:27 am
His favorite toy is the little red lobster. You can see that in my last post.
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5/15/2022 01:34:53 am
That is very organize way you define here how they live there life. and we all know that each person or animal have different life style of living.
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5/15/2022 02:40:32 am
This looks so amazing. I am so glad that you guys decided to travel around Australia more before you head home! Miss you both though.
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5/17/2022 11:34:42 am
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